Once you accept your circumstances as being alright, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to want to improve. When you're troubled by being disorganized, it can be exciting to know you can get organized if you really want to. If I could get organized, anyone can! The urge to change something for the better is why you're reading this blog. Be grateful you have the ability to change. Be grateful for your circumstances and know that as you change them you'll learn more about YOU. You'll grow in self-respect and love for the awesome woman you are. Once you're organized just enough to please you, you’ll look back on your old circumstances and thank God for them because you'll have gotten to know yourself better.
In my latest book,"The Joy of Being Disorganized" you'll learn about all the famous people who were successful in spite of their disorganized natures. Your path to self improvement has to be your own personal path. You can get ideas from others, but ultimately your successes will come because you end up doing it your way. Take how you fall asleep as an example. If you're a good faller asleeper, your methods won't work for everyone. My procedure for falling asleep is unique to only me. If I tried to impose my falling asleep techniques on you I would be remiss. Only you can figure out the best way to fall asleep (that goes for getting organized too).
I can give you some suggestions like don’t have a television set in your room, turn off the lights and don’t have any electronically glowing digits announcing the exact time, but as far as the ritual that will put you to sleep, it has to be yours alone.
I could not fall asleep in the nude (I’ve tried it and every time, I’ve ended up putting pajamas on.) Mind you I didn’t say nightgown. I can’t sleep in nightgowns because the thought that it'll end up all bunched up around my sweaty neck by morning keeps me awake. I have to have pajamas on and the waist can’t be too tight and I don’t like button up tops because the buttons get between my breasts and bug me.
On the rare occasion I can’t sleep I have an extreme exercise I execute. I get out from under the covers and lay with my head at the foot of the bed leaving the pillow where it’s supposed to be. Yes, I put my feet on my pillow. The discomfort of being pillowless and uncovered creates thoughts of how nice it would be to get back under the warm covers with my head on my luscious down-filled pillow. Before I know it, I am totally consumed with the thought of turning around. It works every time for me. Once I get back under the covers I’m so grateful that I’m asleep before I know it.
To each her/his own
Each of my three children had their own personal way to comfort themselves to sleep. Peggy Ann had to have her one hand above her head (sort of the way Mighty Mouse flew around). (Peggy was born “sunny-side-up or “face first” and her little fist was ahead of her face.) Michael had a teddy bear (about the size of a sparrow) that had to be tucked under his chin after he’d chewed on the arm for about a minute. Joanna loved my hair and as long as it was there when it was bedtime or naptime she’d conk.
I’ve come to understand that we teachers must encourage our students to find their own way to success. Flylady is a perfect example. She used the Sidetracked Home Executive 3x5 cardfile system my sister and I developed, with household chores on 3x5 cards, and it worked perfectly for her, until she started over-goaling, and ended up with hundreds of cards and being overwhelmed. She had to find her own way and you do too.
In the SHE book my sister and I told our readers: “Customize this system to your own personal story.” We also said, “Before you organize anything, know that you are just fine in spite of the mess you’re in.” When you start from a place of acceptance, you will have positioned yourself for success. Accept what is right now, where you live, who you live with, how old you are, what you weigh and how you feel. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. Impatience is nothing more than failing to recognize what is supposed to be happening right now.