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What's on Your List Today? Happiness

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 8, 2018 6:50:00 AM

 

Here in the pacific northwest we have a chain of stores called Fred Meyer. (We call it Freddies around this leg of the forest.) Freddie's advertising slogan is: What's on your list today?

Northwesterners catch the phrase every time they see a huge Freddie's truck on the freeway. With most people it probably causes a thought of 'what do I need at the store today.' However for me, it serves as a wake-up call to ask me what "list" of thoughts am I focusing on right now. 

In other words it wakes me up to become consciously aware of the quality of my thought at that moment. If you think about it, you can ascribe a value to a list of thoughts running in your mind at any given moment. So imagine you and a co-worker you carpool with are in traffic on your way home from work and you're driving in the HOV (High Occupancy Vehicle) lane when a guy driving alone slips in front of you, illegally enjoying a faster ride home, and you start a list of thoughts that goes something like this:

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Topics: Happiness, Relationships, peace of mind

A Little Gin Just Might Improve Your Marriage 

Posted by Pam Young

Feb 27, 2018 7:43:00 AM

 

 

 

Okay, I’m not a marriage counselor so I probably shouldn’t be going around giving advice to married couples, especially since I’m on my second marriage and so is my husband, but the idea of letting a little gin improve your marriage is really a good one at least for Terry and me and I thought I’d share with you why it is.

You probably should know that Terry is a workaholic because that’s one of the reasons I came up with this idea in the first place. He’s never without his cell phone or IPAD and he looks at weekends as catch up days to finish all the work he didn’t accomplish during the week because of overbooking. It seems when each day comes to an end, his “to do” list is longer because for every task he crosses off, he adds a couple more jobs.

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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, Relationships

6 Perks to Speaking Less and Listening More

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 23, 2017 10:55:36 AM

 

 

Does your mouth get you into more trouble than any other hole in your body?

 

Thank goodness we only have one mouth! How many times have you wished that you didn’t say that, or didn’t eat or drink that?

I’m sure there’s a legitimate reason why we were made with one mouth and two ears, instead of the other way around. Maybe there’s a clue here to the ratio of use. What if, just for today, we listen more than we speak? How do you think you’ll feel tonight when you go to bed?

We’ve been blessed with the precious gift of speech, but this gift (as with every gift) can be abused and come back to bite us. Balancing speaking and listening will serve you in great ways. I’m suggesting we use our mouths half as much as we use our ears (just for today).

Here are 6 benefits to speaking less and listening more. At the end of my blog, I’ll share how I stopped nagging as a young, single mom of three children ages 4, 9 and 12.

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Topics: Happiness, Relationships

4 Tips to Quit Housework by 6:00 PM

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 7, 2017 5:18:00 AM

 
 
Have you ever traveled a long way and upon arrival at someone’s home, the host asks, “Would you like to freshen up?” Indeed, freshen up after a long journey sounds fabulous! In a way, each day is a long journey and at the end of it, it's time to enjoy the evening in leisure.
 
Often, right before my dad came home from work, Mom would say to my sister Peggy and me, “Girls, Dad’ll be home in 15 minutes, I’m going to go freshen up.” She’d be in the bathroom for about ten minutes and when she’d come out, she looked and smelled fresh. What I didn’t realize back then was my BO (Born Organized) mother was setting the stage for her leisurely evening with my dad. 
 

During your day, find as many ways as you can to get housework done so that you can stop at 6:00 pm. Consider it quitting time. Of course your little Snuggle Bunnies will need your love and attention after six, but I’m talking about the household workload.

If you tend to be frazzled in the evening, these 4 tips for quitting at 6:00 and having a leisure evening can be a reality. 

 

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Topics: Organization, Happiness, Relationships

Do You Like Change?

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 5, 2017 5:30:00 AM

 
 
If you answered "no" to the title of this blog, think about this. Saying you don’t like something makes it so; and since change is inevitable, we may as well decide to enjoy it. 
 
Thinking you don’t like change is a lot of hooey! You do like change! Don't you love clean sheets, fresh 

towels, and the change in seasons? Do you like the time when day turns to night, night turns to day, each different day of the week, the growth in goodness of your children and grandchildren, new stuff like cars, shoes, books and such? Don't you love a change of scenery, a vacation, and even “the change of life” has its very good qualities.

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Topics: Habits, Happiness, Relationships

4 Tips for Quitting Housework at 6:00 PM

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 13, 2016 5:00:00 AM

 
 
Have you ever traveled a long way and upon arrival at someone’s home, the host asks, “Would you like to freshen up?” Indeed, freshen up after a long journey sounds fabulous! In a way, each day is a long journey and at the end of it, it's time to enjoy the evening in leisure.
 
Often, right before my dad came home from work, Mom would say to my sister Peggy and me, “Girls, Dad’ll be home in 15 minutes, I’m going to go freshen up.” She’d be in the bathroom for about ten minutes and when she’d come out, she looked and smelled fresh. What I didn’t realize back then was my BO (Born Organized) mother was setting the stage for her leisurely evening with my dad. 
 

During your day, find as many ways as you can to get housework done so that you can stop at 6:00 pm. Consider it quitting time. Of course your little Snuggle Bunnies will need your love and attention after six, but I’m talking about the household workload.

If you tend to be frazzled in the evening, you’ll love my 4 tips for quitting at 6:00 and having a leisure evening be a reality. 

 

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Topics: Organization, Happiness, Relationships

Six Ways to Perk Up Life with Surprises

Posted by Pam Young

May 4, 2016 4:00:00 AM

Do you like to be on the receiving end of a surprise?

 

A “little” surprise is like being outside on a chilly, spring morning without a coat when the sun pops out from behind a big cloud and warms your back. Like Mother Nature executing one of her random acts of kindness. Here's a trio of daffodils getting their little backs warmed. Just getting this photo from my photographer husband was a little surprise that made me smile!

 

 

Most people don't like those big deal birthday bombshells where you walk into your house and the whole neighborhood yells “surprise,” or those horrid surprises on your credit card statement, right after Christmas. 

Ask everyone in the family, "What one thing could I do to help you be happy?"

This blog is about the times when your husband comes home from work with a single rose for you or your child surprises you by doing a chore you didn’t ask him or her to do.

If you thought to yourself, ‘Ha, Carl’d never come home with a single rose for me,’ or Jenny wouldn’t lift a finger if I didn’t ask her to, maybe you need to ask yourself when was the last time you surprised Carl or helped Jenny with a chore?

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Topics: Happiness, Relationships

We traded 15 thankful comments with each other.

Posted by Pam Young

Apr 11, 2016 6:00:00 AM

 

My husband, Terry and I took a road trip to the Oregon Coast for our anniversary a couple of years ago and while he was driving I suggested we play a gratitude game. 

 

“Is this gonna be some lady’s magazine deal?”  he asked with a sense of apprehension.

 

“No, I’ve been reading Deborah Norvel’s book on the power of being thankful.”

“So Deborah told you to do this?”

“Nope, I thought this game up all by myself. In fact it'd be a great family game.”

“Okay, what do I do?” 

“So, I’ll tell you something I’m grateful for about you and then it’ll be your turn and you have to tell me something you’re grateful for about me and the guy who can’t think of something loses and the other guy wins.”

“What’ll he win?”

“He’ll get taken out to dinner when we get to the beach.”

We probably traded 15 thankful comments with each other and what was very interesting to me was how much I loved hearing his comments for me and I couldn’t wait for the next one. 

I was telling Marla, the Flylady, about the game and she suggested we play it with our inner child. So I had a session with Nelly (she’s my inner child, in case you don’t know). Here’s what happened.

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Topics: Relationships

The Art of Giving and Receiving Praise

Posted by Pam Young

Mar 7, 2016 9:06:07 AM


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Giving and receiving compliments is truly an art that needs to be practiced if you want to become proficient at it. Praise is such a beautiful way to spread joy.

Do you like praise? When you get a compliment how do you react? Do you say something like, “Oh, this ol’ dress? I got it on sale ten years ago,” or do you accept the compliment gracefully? Do you love to give honest compliments and look for positive things to say that are true not only with your friends and family, but with strangers too?


Have you ever given a compliment to a friend and received no reaction? One time I raved about something to this guy who was responsible for doing a great job and I received no reaction; not a thank you, not a smile, nothing. (I’m glad I don’t give compliments to receive positive feedback.) I had to assume he was embarrassed and didn’t know what to say or perhaps he’s not comfortable with giving or receiving compliments. I guess I could ask his wife.

If you're like my friend and you want to improve on the art, I have a great idea for you; start complimenting yourself. Praise yourself when you do well, when you stick to your resolve and when you do the right thing especially when it’s a hard thing to do. Have you notice how interesting it is that often the right thing to do is hard to do? What a life lesson though. When you look back, those decisions to do the right thing when it was very difficult have always been filled with blessings. For instance, my decision to end a relationship that meant the world to me at the time has returned to me such power and joy that it tickles me to think the decision was so hard to make in the first place.

 

Looking for Praise in all the Wrong Places

I remember when I was losing weight for the Mouth Trap book, I wanted praise from Terry. When I didn’t get it, I had to think about it andMouth_Trap_lo_carb realize he’s not a complimentary person. He’s not critical either and I think the two must go hand-in-hand. The other thing I had to figure out was why do I need a compliment from him? I realized I really don’t. My opinion of myself is enough.

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Topics: Articles, Happiness, Relationships

20 Ways Being a Little Organized Makes Life a Joy

Posted by Pam Young

Dec 30, 2015 6:00:00 AM

You'll be shocked at how getting organized just a little will add great joy to you and your family because:

1.   You do 50% less work

2.   You know where everything is

3.   You keep appointments

4.    You’re on time

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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, Organization, Happiness, Relationships

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