Thank You for Your Volunteer Service!!

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 30, 2017 5:00:00 AM

 "I am responsible for creating a climate of love, peace, joy, beauty and order in my home. I am raising responsible, future citizens of the United States of America. What do you do?" Pam Young & Peggy Jones
Have you ever heard the term, "You are TOAST?" When someone is "toast" it means they are up the creek, finished, exposed or kaput. Have you ever heard this term? "I am JAM." Ahh, but you really have heard it because we hear it all the time when we're out and about. See JAM is an acronym for Just A Mom. (This mom had nine girls! Brenda Lovell thank you for your volunteer service!)

When I hear a woman say, "I'm just a mom," I can't help myself; I have to say to that person, "You are NOT JAM, you are responsible for creating a climate of love, peace, joy, beauty and order in your home. You are raising future responsible, happy citizens of the United States of America. You are THE most valuable worker in our country and your "volunteer" service is appreciated by those of us who know the extent of that service and have reaped the benefits. And anyone who thinks you are JAM is TOAST in my humble opinion."

As I was writing that paragraph above I thought to myself, 'maybe I should save this to send out on Mother's Day,' but I don't believe in Mother's Day. I think it's just a way for Hallmark and Pro Flowers to stay in business. I think every day should be Mother's Day and we should all be on the lookout to help moms whenever we can; especially single moms. And if you are a mom, don't say you're jam. If someone asks you, "What do you do?" say, "I am responsible for creating a climate of love, peace, joy, beauty and order in my home. I am raising future responsible, citizens of (name your country). What do you do?"

I received an email from a treasured subscriber, Margaret. I shared her message with all of her fellow subscribers and it created a shocking volume of positive response. Here's what Margaret sent to me.

Dear Pam 
I was reading the introduction to a book about William Penn, founder of Pennsylvania. The introduction was written by James Scott Brady, the man who was shot by John Hinckley Jr. in an attempt to assassinate former President Ronald Reagan. His introduction was titled, "On Facing Adversity." 

Here is the excerpt that inspired me. I hope it inspires others. 

"To people who face and defeat daunting obstacles, "ambition" is not 
becoming wealthy or famous or winning elections or awards. Words like 
"ambition" and "achievement" and "success" take on very different 
meanings. The objective is just to live, to wake up every morning. The 
goals are not lofty; they are very ordinary. 

"My own heroes are ordinary folks -- but they accomplish extraordinary 
things because they try. My greatest hero is my wife, Sarah. She's 
accomplished a lot of things in life, but two stand out. The first has 
been the way she has cared for me and our son since I was shot. A 
tremendous tragedy and burden was dropped unexpectedly into her life, 
totally beyond her control and without justification. She could have 
given up; instead, she focused her energies on preserving our family 
and returning our lives to normal as much as possible. Week by week, 
month by month, year by year, she has not reached for the miraculous, 
just for the normal. Yet in focusing on the normal, she has helped 
accomplish the miraculous." 

Did you catch that? Sarah had very ordinary goals. She plodded along, 
day by day, week by week, month by month.... and by reaching for 
normal, she attained the miraculous. This could be applied to cleaning 
our houses, or getting out of debt, or restoring a broken 
relationship. It may seem that getting our lives or houses in order 
would take a miracle, but by plodding along day by day, week by week, 
we too can attain the miraculous. 

Thanks for reading, 
Margaret Bechtel
Pam here: You are not JAM! Thank you for your volunteer service! If you need a little help 
getting organized for this volunter service, The Joy of Being Disorganized is perfect for you. It'll help you learn how to delegate to those you serve and get organized just enough to please you! To purchase, click on this mom and those she serves, who BTW are now 20, 17 and 14. We moms serve for life.
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Back from Italy! Glad to be Home!

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 28, 2017 5:00:00 AM

Hello Everybody,



Do you dream about traveling to exotic places? Do you ache to see famous points of interest like the Eiffel Tower, the Tahj Mahal or to meet Michael Angelo's David even though he's naked? When you hear about a friend or neighbor getting to go on a cruise or spending time in Paris, London, Amsterdam, Hawaii or just about anywhere short of North Korea, do you find yourself craving to go and feeling bad because you can’t? Do your travel dreams get squashed because of your workload, lack of money, too many kids to take along or a bunch of other reasons?


Mom always wanted to travel when my sister Peggy and I were growing up, but we never got to go very far because we didn’t have the money and Dad couldn’t take time off from work. But that didn’t stop Mom from planning! Bless her little, organized heart; she subscribed to “Holiday Magazine,” a glitzy periodical for the rich (and we weren’t)! It even looked and felt expensive because it was in full color and heavy because every page was almost as thick as the slick cover. Also, it was filled with lots of ads for diamond jewelry and fancy cars in addition to the places it urged us to go. Mom plotted out trips complete with itineraries, destinations for dining, recreation, accommodations and such, and collected them all in her cherished box of travel dreams; her version of a bucket list, where they all waited for the day they’d take us away. We never went.


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Plan Today  ~  More Free Time Tomorrow

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 25, 2017 5:18:00 AM

Just Another Day in a Basic Week Plan

                but a Very Valuable One...Planning Day


Do you have a certain day each week that you take care of items on this list?

  • pay bills
  • answer mail
  • write thank you notes
  • make appointments
  • organize your office (filing paperwork etc.)
  • do bookwork
  • plan fun outings

How would you feel, if all those important elements of your life were organized on a weekly basis?

When you are organized, you are on top of everything from the boring stuff you tend to put off to the fun of not missing out on events that are on certain dates. How many times have you missed out, because you didn’t plan it?

On my Planning Day, my husband and I coordinate calendars so we know about each other’s commitments, if they affect us. I spend from two to five hours on that list above. My Planning Day has developed into a very contemplative day.

For instance, when I pay my bills, I focus on how grateful I am to have the services and objects in my life that make it such a wonderful life. When I write my weeks’ worth of thank you notes, I think about each person I’m thanking and I visualize each one being happy and content. When I file paperwork, I am grateful for the organizing tools at our disposal that make it so easy to be organized. Being organized doesn’t cramp your spontaneity; it sets the stage for you to be even more creative.

When you claim a specific day of the week to plan, and then you stick to that regularly, you’ll begin to see that you can actually set aside tasks that fit into your weekly work schedule. In other words, you can have a pile of papers to file once a week if you’ll do it. You can add to a list of people to thank, if you’ll really do it once a week. It’s only when you don’t do what you’ve piled up for the week, that’ll you get into trouble.

21 Days to establish a habit

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Topics: Tools for Moms, Habits, Happiness

Pam & Peggy Cutting Corners on Television

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 23, 2017 6:01:00 AM



Do you remember seeing Pam & Peggy on television? Every once in awhile we like to share with you some of the highlights Pam and her sister enjoyed with their television friends.They appeared on just about every major program whether nationwide or on TV in the largest cities: Oprah, Donohue, Mike and Maty, The Home Show, Regis (17 times), and Geraldo.

"lt's so much fun to have an audience roaring in laughter. It's even more fun when the host doesn't know where we're going next."

This short video from the Will Shriner show is a perfect example. 

                                       We hope you enjoy it.

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Love Who You Are Right Now

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 21, 2017 5:25:00 AM



What if when you said, "I do," you really knew how much had to be done? Maybe you should have said, "I do, sometimes." Did you know that if you are disorganized you’ve done way more work than an organized person who said “I do?” Ask any BO (Born Organized) person why they’re organized and one of their main reasons is that they’re lazy! One BO told me, “I’m basically lazy and I’m not willing to leave the kitchen a mess after a meal because it takes twice as long to wash off food that’s dried on plates, silverware, pots and pans and counters. I know exact times because I have a stop watch and I’ve timed both clean-ups! Twice as long when you put it off.” 

Just think, if you’d been a BO from the time you said, “I do,” until now, you’d have had twice as much time to play! But who wants to be a BO? Not me!


What if you were organized right now? What if your garage looked like an advertisement for storage cabinets for a garage? What if you were ready for back to school right now? What if you were debt free? What if you weighed what you weighed in high school? 


"Where's a magic wand when you need one?"

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The Cleaner Guy uses Vodka to Kill Germs

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 18, 2017 5:00:00 AM



When the Cleaner Guy is not focused on house cleaning and making non-toxic cleaning products, he practices law. Please pay close attention to this lawyer when he tells you where NOT to use Vodka as a cleaning and disinfecting agent.

Enjoy the video.





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Topics: The Cleaner Guy

Sidetracked Home Executives Get Organized Just to Please You

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 16, 2017 5:00:00 AM



My book The Joy of Being Disorganized is the first book I’ve written that makes a great gift!

I believe there are 10 SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executive) to every BO (Born Organized) and I wrote this book to celebrate our SHEness!

There’s a modified 3x5 get organized system in it that'll really help you get help from your family. Here’s what Allison, a successful banker, had to say:


Dear Pam,

Thank you for writing The Joy of Being Disorganized. I’m a successful banker and am organized at work, because there are systems in place and I handle my staff with understanding, patience and support. But my home has been another story. Somehow, I let my disorganization at home undermine my self-esteem. I didn’t even know I was doing that, until I read your book. What a wake-up call for you to tell me to celebrate my disorder! And how could that possible help me get my home organized? All I can say is that it was a shift in energy!

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Good News!

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 14, 2017 5:00:00 AM


Back in 1929 when the stock market crashed, we didn’t have CNN or FOX or news or the Internet. Our grandparents (or great grandparents in some cases) didn’t get over-fed the news 24-7. They got a newspaper once a day (maybe) and they listened to the radio (maybe).

Because of this age of information we can (if we choose) be bombarded with bad news because the access is as close as our finger on the clicker or the mouse on our computer. It’s one thing to be aware of what is going on in the world, our country and our community, but it’s quite another to watch the reruns and regurgitated opinions of “the experts” as they re-hash the re-runs while we click to another channel to watch the news covered from a different camera angle.

The GOOD NEWS is that to the media, the only newsworthy material is what is negative AND sensational. Dog Bites Man, is not “news.” Man Bites Dog (and don’t forget to put music behind the story) is. (I learned that from my journalist husband.) It is the extraordinary that makes “the news.” So most everything you see on the news is unusual and extraordinary. IT IS NOT THE NORM. But we in our naivety (or stupidity) allow our sweet minds to watch what happened not once but on the hour until the next day when the next batch of bad news is ready. How many times do you have to watch the bank robber caught on tape? Isn’t once enough?

We cause ourselves needless suffering

I know we’re human and most of us are naturally curious about bad news.

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Topics: Happiness, peace of mind

Get the Feeling First

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 12, 2017 10:14:58 AM




When you were young, did you try to get answers from daisies by ripping off the petals and saying, “He loves me, he loves me not?” Maiming daisies for answers seems a little cruel but there's another way. Have you ever asked a question and gone to a random book, on a random page for the answer? If you've never done it you don't know what you're missing. 


Right now, I’m waiting to hear whether my project is going forward or not. My patience is being tested, because I’m excited to know. So I picked up a book, I’ve been currently re-reading entitled, Think and Grow Rich, which I’ve had in my library since 1968. I opened the book randomly, to a page and closed my eyes and pointed to a place on one of the pages. This is what it said: Faith removes limitations! Remember this when you are ready to bargain with Life for whatever it is that you ask as your price for having passed this way. Without telling you what the news is about, I will say that these words fit perfectly (which is almost always what happens when I do this) with what I’m waiting to hear.

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Topics: Happiness, succeed

Staircase Going Up or Going Down?

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 10, 2017 5:14:00 AM



“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Martin Luther King

When you read that quote by King, can you imagined yourself at a staircase? Would that first step in your imagination see you going up or going down?



I posed this question in 2015 to my blog subscribers just because I was curious. It really doesn’t matter because it’s a metaphor for stepping out on a mission in faith. I spent that entire morning (after I posted the question) fielding the responses and out of more than 100 who responded only three of us picture that first step going down.

You may say I need to “get a life” spending time on this, but I was really interested in the age of people and what they thought. One of the “downers” was 37 years of age and the range in age for the “uppers” was between 28 and 72. There were so many thoughtful responses I'd like to share some of them with you. I really didn’t think it was going to be that interesting, but it sure was! I’ll tell you at the end why I think I envision going down the staircase instead of up.

Martie said:


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Topics: Happiness

Get Organized to Relax and Enjoy Your Life

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 9, 2017 6:00:00 AM


Because this blog has nothing to do with how to get organized, and everything to do with having fun and relaxing, there's a habit to establish at the end for those who want the organizing kind of information today.

Being organized has many facets and one of those is one we SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives) are familiar with because it has to do with our creativity. Besides having fun comes naturally, although it can be squelched by overloaded work to be done.


When we’re organized, we make time to have fun on a routine basis. SHEs who get organized get to play way more than SHEs who are disorganized. BOs (born organized) have a hard time playing in the first place, because there’s always work to be done.

We SHEs are creative and it’s that creativity that recharges our energy, just like a good nap does. My youngest daughter, Joanna, has found a wonderful way to relax and play with her artistic gift. 

It all started with a Face Book page: and this comment on the page:  


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Topics: get organized

4 Tips to Quit Housework by 6:00 PM

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 7, 2017 5:18:00 AM

Have you ever traveled a long way and upon arrival at someone’s home, the host asks, “Would you like to freshen up?” Indeed, freshen up after a long journey sounds fabulous! In a way, each day is a long journey and at the end of it, it's time to enjoy the evening in leisure.
Often, right before my dad came home from work, Mom would say to my sister Peggy and me, “Girls, Dad’ll be home in 15 minutes, I’m going to go freshen up.” She’d be in the bathroom for about ten minutes and when she’d come out, she looked and smelled fresh. What I didn’t realize back then was my BO (Born Organized) mother was setting the stage for her leisurely evening with my dad. 

During your day, find as many ways as you can to get housework done so that you can stop at 6:00 pm. Consider it quitting time. Of course your little Snuggle Bunnies will need your love and attention after six, but I’m talking about the household workload.

If you tend to be frazzled in the evening, these 4 tips for quitting at 6:00 and having a leisure evening can be a reality. 


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Topics: Organization, Happiness, Relationships

Do You Like Change?

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 5, 2017 5:30:00 AM

If you answered "no" to the title of this blog, think about this. Saying you don’t like something makes it so; and since change is inevitable, we may as well decide to enjoy it. 
Thinking you don’t like change is a lot of hooey! You do like change! Don't you love clean sheets, fresh 

towels, and the change in seasons? Do you like the time when day turns to night, night turns to day, each different day of the week, the growth in goodness of your children and grandchildren, new stuff like cars, shoes, books and such? Don't you love a change of scenery, a vacation, and even “the change of life” has its very good qualities.

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Topics: Habits, Happiness, Relationships

What is Your Problem?

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 3, 2017 5:09:00 AM



Why do you think you have a problem with being organized? Has the problem been with you for as long as you can remember? Could it be genetic? Does it seem to you some people are just born organized and some aren't, and you're one that isn't and you wish you were? 

There seems to be a pill for everything and there is one for SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives), but you don't need to take it, when you decide to get organized just enough to please you. In this blog you'll go on a trip to a place where you'll get organized enough to keep your personal path to joy swept regularly.

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Topics: Featured, get organized

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