If you just died, what would you have liked to have been doing today before it happened? Who would you have wanted to be with? What would you have liked to have eaten? What music would you have liked to have been listening to? Where would you have liked to be?
Perhaps the answers to these questions could give you a few clues as to what you should be doing as soon as possible. So many women have a hard time nailing what it is that they want. That’s probably because they spend so much time caring for others; their children, older parents and husbands.
I just watched a 90-year old woman ice skating on a YouTube video. It was a documentary that followed her career as a young ice skater to her end. She died on the ice. During interviews with her, it was so easy to see the joy this woman had for ice skating. In her 80s she was at the rink five times a week. She made you want to do what you love and she was such a remarkable example of what that can do for a person. She was happy.
When I first started thinking about this, I asked myself, “If you knew you were going to die tonight, what would you have wanted this day to be like?” The thought of dying tonight was too sad for me to think about what I’d do, so I came up with the thought to put the whole concept into the past. That way I made myself already dead! Then my mind was open to thinking what I would’ve done. I liked that way better.
So take a little time and think about what you would have done today. Then make some plans to do that. One thing that came to my mind was that I love to hold babies! I got to thinking how valuable that desire could be for babies who don’t get held enough, like at day cares where the staff just doesn’t have time to hold babies when there are so many and they have so much to do. I’m going to volunteer at a local day care to just be a “Lap Grandma.”
I remember Peggy and I spent a day years ago staying for 8 hours at two different daycare facilities. I spent the day in a non-religious day care facility and she stayed in one attached to a church. Both places wondered why we’d want to visit for an entire day, and we told them we wanted to put ourselves into the position of the children who have to stay there all day.
Much of that day, besides doing my research on daycare establishments, was spent holding children. One little boy didn’t feel good and was running a little temperature. He just wanted to be held. Others wanted the same and it made me think about mothering my own children. Much of that time when they’re little was holding them until they were ready to take off on another adventure!
Perhaps what’s going wrong with those young people who go on rampages with guns is that they just didn’t get to be held enough when they were little. If I can spend a few hours a week just holding children, I’d really like that.
I’ll let you know what happens on that front.
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