We SHEs Have Amazing Imaginations

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 16, 2021 4:45:45 PM


SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives) have been given very creative minds. It's part of the sidetracked package. It's what gets us into messes and sends us gleefully off to make another, before we clean up the one we just made. But there are such priceless advantages to our creative imaginations. This last weekend I had an AHA moment I'd like to share with you.

We live about two hours from the west coast and we usually make a couple trips each year to "the beach." We've always loved Cannon Beach in Oregon. Since I haven't felt good for the last couple of years, we put off going. It didn't stop my imagination from taking me there any time I wanted. It provided me with the smells, the feeling in the air, the thoughts about food I love at the beach and I can even feel my feet get wet in the cool sand. I'd guess I've been to Cannon Beach at least 20 times in the last two years...via my imagination. Those trips were free each time and since I didn't actually take my body there, I didn't have to drive two hours, pack, make reservations or drive back home for two hours.

So last Thursday, I felt good enough that I had this conversation with Terry.

"You wanna go to the beach?"



"Where would you wanna go?"

"I was thinking Cannon Beach. I could see if there are vacancies "


One of the places we love to stay was full and besides inflation had had her way with the prices. $345 for an ocean view room! I'm spoiled. When I go to the beach I want a room that looks at it. Unfortunately I have a parking-lot view budget with ocean view taste. I swallowed my disappointment and we ended up with a room for $140 with an elevator view three feet away from our window. The tiny room was clean and the bed was comfortable, but Nelly (my inner child) was mad. The beach trips I'd had in my mind did NOT cramp me into a room the size of my office.

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Here's a Fun Video from the Past

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 15, 2021 2:26:41 PM



There's a totally fake voice some moms use in public with their children to make those around her think she's a great mom. It's easy to spot if it's fake, by looking at the children being talked to. If it's fake, the kids seem confused and a little mesmerized.

In this video Peggy and I talk about that voice. We called it, "The OMSI Voice." OMSI stands for Oregon Museum of Science and Industry. You'll hear it a lot in museums, libraries and especially church as they try to elicit admiration from those in earshot.

omsi voice
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ADD It's a GOOD Thing

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 9, 2021 4:01:26 PM


I've been following this adorable couple on Youtube, with their crazy songs about COVID. My stepson Eric connected me with them, because he knows I have ADHD. Today I watched them sing about ADHD and I had to share it with you, because it celebrates our SHEness. In fact in my book "The Joy of Being Disorganized," the theme throughout the book is celebrating our disorder, not the disorder the disorder creates.

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Forgiveness Brings Happiness

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 7, 2021 6:12:54 PM

Are there people in your life whom you have not forgiven? Do you think you’d be happier if you could forgive them?


Nelson Mandela said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”


Would you like to read about a simple approach to forgiveness that has worked for many, who tried it? To find real peace and joy in our lives, we need to forgive those who have hurt us. I shared this timeline in a blog many years ago and if you truly want the freedom that comes with forgiveness, this approach could help. 

February 17:

I got an email from a woman who said her teacher (spiritual) asked the students to bring a clear plastic sack of potatoes to class, with each potato representing someone they hadn’t forgiven in life. In class they were asked to write the name of each person they had not forgiven on each potato. Some of the bags were quite heavy. 


They were asked to carry their bag with them everywhere, putting it beside their bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to their desk at work until they could forgive the people the potatoes represented.

The woman wrote, “The hassle of lugging my bag of unforgiven people around, made it clear, what a weight I was carrying spiritually, and how I had to pay attention to it all the time to not forget, leaving it in embarrassing places.” 


Is there anything yuckier than a rotten potato? You know that saying, “one rotten apple spoils the barrel”? Well give me a rotten apple any day! One rotten potato smells way worse than a garage of rotten apples. One potato would affect the whole bag, but that usually doesn’t happen because of the smell! I don’t think I could let a whole bag of potatoes rot, because the stench of one is enough of a call to action. 


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Topics: Habits

Declutter Your Home! 10 Ways

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 6, 2021 3:20:39 PM


It’s no secret that countless families are deluged by household clutter.

While I was ill for four months, I was thankful to myself for having a clutter-free home. A home free of clutter is soothing and helps in recovery. This is a blog I wrote several years ago giving an excerpt from my book, "The Joy of Being Disorganized."

Flylady says; “The most common clutter hot spots are children's bedrooms, home offices, attics, and garages.” What does it take to create a clutter-free space? Here are my 10 best home organization strategies straight from my book, The Joy of Being Disorganized.

1. Stop Clutter at the Cash Register

Use that, waiting-to-buy time when you’re standing in line at the cash register, to re-think what’s in your hands or cart. Imagine it as clutter. What you buy today can turn into clutter tomorrow. The better you are about keeping things out of your home, the less likely you’ll be to fill it with stuff that doesn't server you.


2. Stop Homelessness

One of the main reasons stuff piles up on counters, dining tables, coffee tables and floors is that it’s homeless. When an item has no "home," it gets added to an IPOD
 (Important Pile Of Decisions). The free chapter I'm giving you has great information about the IPODs in your home and how to eliminate them. That’s why it’s important to make sure everything in your home lives somewhere. “Homing” items in the room where they're used, helps ensure that they get put away when you're finished. For example, I keep a sewing kit in a drawer of an end table in my living room, because I like to mend garments in that room and not in my sewing room in the basement.





3. Baby Step your Way to Clutter-free

Start with the room that’s bothering you the most. (In my 44-year career helping moms get organized, the kitchen is the room most picked by baby-steppers.) Marla Cilley, the Flylady
says, “Start by shining your kitchen sink.” That’s so brilliant! In order to keep your sink shiny, you have to keep it empty. In order to keep it empty, you and your family have to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher. In order to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher, it has to be empty!

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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, De-Cluttering

It's Been Awhile, but I'm Back

Posted by Pam Young

Sep 2, 2021 3:31:50 PM

I haven't blogged since June 16, the 44th anniversary of "Sidetracked Home Executives." A lot has happened since then and it has taken me this long to write to you.

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My Shameful Garden

Posted by Pam Young

Aug 1, 2021 6:00:00 AM



In this video you'll see my pathetic garden in spite of help from a master gardener who showed me exactly what to do to grow enough to feed the harvest to an entire neighborhood.

WELL, the biggest lesson learned is in this video. Watch to find out.

I will warn you, there are just some things we SHEs should not attempt.


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Just Look What You've Done!

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 26, 2021 5:10:45 PM




Very frequently I hear from SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executive) lamenting that they wish they'd used the SHE 3x5 get organized system for home and family earlier. My answer is always the same, you weren't ready and until you're ready you won't use it. It's interesting to find out how much these precious women have achieved in spite of their disorder! It's testimony to how talented we SHEs really are. Here's an excerpt from "The Joy of Being Disorganized" that conveys this thought.

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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, get organized

The Grass is Always ... ... ...

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 16, 2021 7:30:00 AM

The grass in the foreground of this photo is our grass and you can see our neighbors' grass is not greener, ours is. That's because our neighbors have been mowing their lawns and we haven't.

This isn’t a blog about envy or coveting your neighbor’s crap (I meant to write crop, but crap made me laugh so I left it in) but let’s go there for a few paragraphs because I can tie the proverb to our desire to be organized, and then I’ll share what I’ve learned this month about what the grass is always doing besides being greener someplace else.

When I was a slob, I definitely envied organized people. Those specific people I knew are not in my life anymore: my mom, several of my neighbors, my minister’s wife, my husband’s boss’s wife, my husband and of course Martha Stewart was constantly barking around every corner, luring me into hundreds of creative messes and nudging me to have, do and be all.

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A Don't Do List

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 1, 2021 4:01:55 PM

Do you love to make a "To Do" list every day?


If your kids are grown and you've gotten used to the reduced workload, of raising a family, you've probably forgotten how busy young moms are these days. All it takes is to have one or more grandchildren for a few days and it all comes back to you what our busy moms are dealing with today. One mom of four said, "When my husband comes home at the end of a long day and wonders what I've done all day, I figure if I can account for all four of his children, I've done my part." 

Do you ever put things you’ve already done on a list, so you can cross them off. That's great if you do. We need all the sense of accomplishment we can get when it comes to running a home successfully. That got me to thinking, what if we made a list of things we don't have to do today, it'd be very fun and give us a sense of relief! It's so important for us to seize every moment we can in joy, and do things that tickle us, especially when we're on the verge of feeling overwhelmed. 

This thing called life is whizzing by us without our notice. Just like we aren't aware of how fast our little planet is spinning and flying through the cosmos, we miss the speed in which our lives are hurtling through time. 

So, if you’re inclined to make lists and add auxiliary tasks you did that weren’t on the list in the first place so you can cross them off and feel more productive, you'll love this list of 5 things you don’t have to do today. Now if you want to write them down so you can cross them off, you’re going to have to write the word “don’t” in front of each one, but really, just enjoy the list!

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