The 21-Day Habit-Building Game

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 20, 2018 5:22:00 AM



If you’re a person who has a history of disorganization, you’ve probably had your share of putting yourself down for it.

When you’re late (that's just a habit), you’re embarrassed and you set yourself up for dirty looks and eye rolls from those who’ve had to wait for you or maybe your lack of time awareness has caused you to miss the last flight out, or the buss to someplace you wanted to be. When you trip in the dark over stuff you left out in the light (that's just a habit), it can mean a trip to the ER and a self-condemning sermon all the way to the hospital. When you run out of gas (that's just a habit) and you’re late to work, you pour more gas on your talent for beating yourself up than you put in your car’s tank.

When you bump up against something caused by your disorganized habits, ask yourself what baby step you might take so this bump can get smaller and smaller and in time, disappear? Get yourself into the 21-Day Game. Pick one thing to do for 21 days remembering you’ve got all the time in the world to change anything you want to change. (The 21 days is just a segment of time in which a habit is established.) Don’t put pressure on yourself. This is just a game you're going to play. There’s no contest here. You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone. Your reason to change something is so that you'll feel good because of it.

Bury the Hatchet

When it comes to getting organized, the real starting place is to make amends with you. You have to bury the psychological hatchet you’ve been holding over you for all your past misdemeanors. Give yourself a break! You’re the only one who can do it, and all it takes is an apology. Tell yourself:

 I’m sorry I’ve been so mean to you when things are disorganized. You are my best friend and I love you so much. I love how much I do in spite of being disorganized. Look how beautiful the yard is! I’m a great cook and I don’t waste food. I’m doing so much right and everything is fine. I want to be more organized and I’d like to start by going to bed every night for the next 21 days at 9:30 at the latest. That’s all. Just a plan that will give me more rest for 21 days.

Going to bed at a regular time may not be the activity you choose to do for the 21- Day Game (it’s a good one if you’re not getting your rest) instead, it may be to shine your sink, make your bed, floss, walk for 30 minutes, get dressed before breakfast instead of before lunch or dinner, meditate for 20 minutes—you pick what feels right and do it. But pick something now.

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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, get organized

One Day at a Time

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 16, 2018 5:40:00 AM


Making a change involves acquiring a new skill and that takes practice.


Practice makes perfect. Think about how you don't even have to think when you tie your shoes! But when you were learning that skill you had to use up a lot of your conscious mind to get the suckers tied.

Now, while you tie them, you can be thinking about whether or not you're going to ride the ferris wheel at the fair today or what you're going to order when you go out to breakfast this morning.

Everything that you've practice into a habit you now do unconsciously. So what are some of things you practice every day that have become habits? Do you pile papers to file later? Do you leave your cloth bags in the car when you grocery shop? Do you put your keys, purse, cell phone and glasses just anywhere? 

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Is Your Garage Constipated

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 9, 2018 6:39:00 AM





If you drive down any neighborhood street in America, no matter what the cost of the homes, you’ll find at least 50% of the drive-ways have a car parked in them. That doesn’t mean the people in the homes have company, it most likely means the garages are full of stuff and there’s no room for the cars.

I was recently on a television talk show in Portland, Oregon and I talked about how we Americans have too much stuff. The hostess of the show told me she’s embarrassed to pull out of her garage because it’s crammed full. I said, “Well at least you can get your car in the garage!” She said, “It barely fits and it's a three-car garage!”

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Topics: De-Cluttering

Plan Today  for  More Free Time Tomorrow

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 7, 2018 2:02:26 PM

Just Another Day in a Basic Week Plan

                but a Very Valuable One...Planning Day


Do you have a certain day each week that you take care of items on this list?

  • pay bills
  • answer mail
  • write thank you notes
  • make appointments
  • organize your office (filing paperwork etc.)
  • do bookwork
  • plan fun outings

How would you feel, if all those important elements of your life were organized on a weekly basis?

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Topics: Tools for Moms, Habits, Happiness

Homemade Chicken Salad Video

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 3, 2018 5:59:00 AM



When you buy a whole chicken and cut it up into parts, you end up with the chicken back, neck, rib cage and giblets. In a slow cooker, cook those remains in a quart of water for an hour, and remove to take all the meat off the bones. (It will yield about two cups of meat.) To make bone broth put the bones back in the broth that cooked for an hour and cook for up to 20 hours in a slow cooker.

That bone broth is filled with vitamins and minerals and  is great to have as a snack or used in soups and sauces calling for broth.

But you're here to watch my cooking video and get the Chicken Salad recipe so let's go! 

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Topics: Cooking Videos, Recipes, Health

Cleaner Guy in Zone One

Posted by Pam Young

Jul 2, 2018 3:31:59 PM

The Cleaner Guy (Jeffrey Jones) has shown you how to make your own,  toxic-free cleaning products in his series of cleaning videos and now he's going to show you how to clean Zone One. We're following the Flylady Flight Plan (which is the Zone Plan my sister, Peggy, and I developed and gave permission to Flylady to use on her website. So if you get the flight plan every day from her, you know we are now in Week One/ Zone One which is the dining room and entryway.)







Watch The Cleaner Guy cleaning my dining room.


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Topics: How to Clean Videos

Get-Away! Fun-filled Week at a 3-Bedroom Ranch

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 29, 2018 5:35:00 AM


Young people don’t have bucket lists.There’s just too much they want to do to bother making a list. Besides, young people are too busy with NOW to think much about TOMORROWS. They’ll also discover as they age, they could never imagine some of the stuff they’ll do, without it ever appearing on a list. Like this duck who never dreamed he'd swim with the flamingos, ended up doing it without it being on his bucket list.

My bucket list is getting shorter (like that duck's legs), but it’s a good thing. I’m finding out, I cross off been-there-done-that stuff faster than I’m adding more to do.  


Then there are those desires that gradually fade in time. For example, I carried around a wish for fifty years that I’m “happily” crossing off my bucket list, not because I did it, but because now I don’t want to. With just a little thought I got to the bottom of why it’s been such a perennial desire. ADVERTISING!

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Folding sheets is so 1990!  Save Time in 2018!

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 27, 2018 6:00:00 AM


A BO (Born Organized) could never do what's in this video. It would drive her crazy.


But we lucky SHEs (Sidetracked Home Executives) have no problem doing this.  

Women are notorious for neglecting self-care in lieu of caring for others and when asked if they are selfish about taking care of themselves, most cringe and say, “no.” The cringe comes from guilt knowing they should have free time for themselves. There are two parts to this: one is you need to know what you’re going to do when you take time out (I'll go into that another day) and two you need to make time for the time outs. Here's just one way to make time. Watch the video and then give it a try. It's actually fun!! And it'll save time you could use to play.


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Topics: Organization

Dumb Happens When Bored~Cure For Doing Dumb Stuff

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 25, 2018 6:14:00 AM


Have you caught yourself saying, "Duh, that was dumb to do."? 


When we do something without thinking, we usually judge it to be dumb. Some of the dumbest stuff I do is when I'm looking for something. I'll catch myself looking in the same place. DUMB. Or I'll look in some stupid place like the refrigerator when I'm looking for my phone. DUMB.

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Life is Better When You're Organized 20       Reasons Why

Posted by Pam Young

Jun 22, 2018 11:42:53 AM

You'll be shocked at how getting organized just a little will add great joy to you and your family because:


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Topics: On Being Organized / Disorganized, Organization, Happiness, Relationships

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